The way we see our bodies and ourselves can change over time and can also be a reflection of how others talk about and relate to you. Allison Kimmey is on a mission to encourage body positivity and her story has gone viral for all the right reasons. The other day, Allison and her young daughter were lounging by the pool when her daughter raised an interesting question. Pointing to her stomach, her daughter asked “Why is your tummy big mama?” her question was referring to Kimmey’s stretch marks crisscrossing her midsection.
The proud mother of two didn’t hesitate to answer her young daughter in a frank and honest manner. “Well, when I was a little older than you, I got some stripes when I grew really fast!” Kimmey explained, “And some of these stripes are from when I had you growing in my tummy.”
After some close examination of the “stripes” by her daughter, Allison prompted with another question, “They are shiny and sparkly, aren’t they?” Thanks to Allison’s quick thinking and positive response her daughter answered in turn “Yes, I like this one the best, it’s so glittery. When can I get some?” How often do you hear a girl asking excitedly about the day she will get her first stretch mark? “Oh, you will get your glitter stripes when you get a little older baby,” Allison responded.
Kimmey shared the conversation on her social media accounts and got an overwhelmingly positive response from her followers and it wasn’t long before the story had gone viral. Since her post was shared it amassed more than 155, 000 likes and more than 74,000 shares in just a few days. The comments not only praised Kimmey for her honesty and positivity but encouraged other moms to speak similarly with their sons and daughters.
Kimmey didn’t shy away from sharing her struggles with accepting her body, especially when she was younger, which is why her lesson on embracing her body to her daughter was so important to her. “I know that she will most likely have a similar frame as myself, and I understand the challenges that are ahead,” she said in an interview with Cosmopolitan magazine. “I am confident that if I lead the way in loving my body and showing her that we are capable, lovable, and worthy no matter our size, that she will be a force to be reckoned with.”
Kimmey’s message didn’t end with just how we talk to our children, but extended to encouraging other moms to think positive and cherish their own skin as well. “Talking to our children about our bodies is so critical,” she wrote on her personal Instagram page. “The limiting beliefs we have now as adults were formed as children. Even if you aren’t directly telling a child that they are fat or unworthy, by saying those things about yourself you have indirectly led them to believe it about themselves.”