Every mother and father can get overly protective when others criticize their parenting methods, but Alayna Kolberg had to get off her chest the latest happenings that involved her beloved son, Carson, and the concept that so many parents are quick to preach – sharing.
Kolberg explained in her post that as soon as she arrived at the park with her son, “Carson was approached by at least six boys, all at once demanding that he share his transformer, Minecraft figure, and truck. He was visibly overwhelmed and clutched them to his chest as the boys reached for them. He looked at me.”
It was at this point that Alanya told her son that it is okay to stand his ground and refuse to pass around his beloved toy.
“Of course, as soon as he said no, the boys ran to tattle to me that he was not sharing. I said, ‘He doesn’t have to share with you. He said no. If he wants to share, he will.'”
Hearing her justification for her way of teaching, others parents gave Alanya dirty looks of disapproval. Although it made her feel uncomfortable, Alanya took her own advice and did not give in to social pressure.
“If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! So really, while you’re giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here? The person reluctant to give his three toys away to six strangers, or the six strangers demanding to be given something that doesn’t belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?”
Alanya ended her post with a personal note, explaining that: “The goal is to teach our children how to function as adults. While I do know some adults who clearly never learned how to share as children, I know far more who don’t know how to say no to people, or how to set boundaries, or how to practice self-care. Myself included. The next time your snowflake runs to you, upset that another child isn’t sharing, please remember that we don’t live in a world where it’s conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so, and I’m not going to teach my kid that that’s the way it works.”